As we reach adulthood, we see how easily relationships can change, especially friendships. Wether we let go, or it just happens naturally, friendship dynamics change. From conversations of cute stickers, homework, sports to houses, cars and credit cards. Some may feel comfortable, some may feel left out depending on each’s values.

Generally, friendship is about being able to cultivate warmth, generosity snd non-judgemental attitudes towards each other. There’re no “fake” friends - just misalignment between values, cultures or perspectives - yes, the actions hurt, but that isn’t necessarily always a bad thing, it just means we can install healthy boundaries in future. I have seen many people sharing about how they feel being taken advantage of in terms of exchanging gifts, time, or values. Truthfully speaking, “being taken advantage of” is also about how we view ourselves - as stupid, naive or gullible? None of it, instead come back and thank our hearts by being able to extend, to give - we may not know deep down what other people’s motives are, but surely, it is driven by pain because hurt people hurt people. When friends walk away, respect their feelings and ours. Respect the previous friendship, allow yourself to grieve and find others who share the same core values as yourself.

Build meaningful relationships, be authentic, and most importantly, cultivate self-love and love for others as well.