"It's not about our communication styles..... it just doesn't work anymore!"

"We've been avoiding each other for a long time - it reduces miscommunication, things should be getting better.. right?"

"I'm tired of working on my communication with this person!"

These statements are no stranger to me in the therapy room. Many people expressed how too little or too much communication with others have an effect on them and their mental well-being. While I rest today, I started thinking - am I communicating with my surroundings when I am not even saying or doing anything? Interestingly, I am. People around me know this position I am in, which means I am resting / chilling.

When I observed the environment around me, I got to see people communicating with one another.... both verbally and with their body language. Looking into each other's eyes and smiling, looking into a certain direction and having people in the group doing the same. Talking and laughing together..... also, when both are not talking to one another and were busy doing things by themselves.... all these are types of communication. Crossing the road while making hand gestures or giving each other bows or nodding as a way of acknowledgement of someone's presence. Basically, we are constantly communicating with others! No wonder we need some time off to recharge.

I am better aware of what I do to communicate how I feel to people around me. Sometimes people may get and understand what I am trying to expres but there were also times when it got misunderstood.....the assumption of "you know me, you should know what I am trying to say to you..." may not be the best practice to communicate with someone else. One thing's for sure, if you do not explicitly mention something, there will be a gap and adding to the risk of misunderstanding.

My way of writing is also a way of me communicating with you, the readers. When I write something, it's apparent that I have a goal in mind, not just sharing my thoughts, but it's also my wish to ignite some thought provoking moments which make you see things from a different angle.

Can you list down your own style of communicating with others? What do your actions mean? How would you like to express yourself and get yourself heard?